烹飪事實

這段改編自 2021 年 12 月 14 日的對話。

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費曼與他的太太(琳)有一個協定,盡力不向對方說謊。

琳不幸患上當時的絕症(肺結核)。家人叫費曼暫時不要,將消息告訴琳。家人在場時,費曼對琳謊稱「沒有事」。

但是,家人離開後,費曼即向琳講出實情。琳的第一反應是傷感,但不是因為知道,自己身患不治之症;亦不是因為知道,費曼欺騙了她;而是因為,她覺得費曼剛才被迫講大話,十分委屈。

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即使是「善意謊言」,也不應使用,除非當刻實在迫不得已:真話會令人嚴重受傷,甚至死亡;然後,稍後如果事主的情況安全許可,你就在最短時間內,還原真相給他。

「善意謊言」的最大問題是,「善意」不代表「善行」,更不代表「善果」。到病人最終知道真相時,只加倍傷心。

謊言如借錢,最終必須連本帶利地歸還。謊言不如借錢,因為金錢欠債,可以透過還錢來化解;但是,誠信有損,沒有任何方法修補。

他日你公佈好消息時,病人也不會相信,因為,她仍會覺得,你只是安慰她,不是講真相。

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往地獄之路,往往由善意建築而成的;往天堂之路,則是由善行。

好樹結好果。帶來「善果」的,才是「善行」。

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愛情上,那些原為了避免,引起誤會的所謂「善意謊言」,往往會觸發,更大的誤會。

典型例子有,你去見一位異性老朋友,與她聚舊。雖然只是見朋友,但為免令女朋友誤會,你不告訴她。

到你女朋友發現時,她會質疑,你為何不知會她。明明是光明正大的活動,卻因為所謂的「善意謊言」,而變得不明不白。

然後,你女朋友再會猜想,你還有什麼其他事項隱瞞呢?

你一個所謂「善意謊言」,引致無窮盡的誤會。

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正確的相處技巧是,毋須技巧;如實相告便是。

「我明日下午見,一位異性老朋友。你一同去嗎?」

你女朋友反而會放心,因為,她知道你的政策是「有嗰句,講嗰句」。

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你可以包裝事實,令人聽得舒適一點。包裝了的事實,恰尚好處的話,仍然可以是真相。但你不可以歪曲事實,形成假相。

正如,你可以烹飪食物,令其成熟;亦可以為其加調味料。但是,你不可以下毒。

— Me@2022-06-12 01:08:49 PM

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2022.06.13 Monday (c) All rights reserved by ACHK

PhD, 4

GlenTheMachine on Aug 28, 2018 | next [–]

I have a PhD in aerospace engineering. I loved grad school. Loved loved loved it. I wouldn’t give up the worst day I had in grad school for almost anything. And I love having the skills it taught me. I am a much better engineer and researcher than I could possibly have been had I taken almost any other route. I was given freedom in grad school that just would not have been present in most industry jobs. I was given a hardware project – a submersible robot – that I was completely in charge of on day 1. I had to teach myself machining, how to do electrical and electonic works, how to do embedded programming, how to tune a PID loop, how to work with other students, how to give a persuasive presentation, how to come up with my own ideas, how to convince other people that they were worth pursuing, how to quickly become an expert in a topic.

That being said, I am not under any illusions about the financial loss I experienced. I spent ten years making a pauper’s wage, when if I had chosen to go into industry I would have been a software engineer… in the Valley… in 1993.

I also was in a remarkable lab in grad school. It made top-ten lists of “coolest college lab”. And that wasn’t hype. The caliber of student and of professor was off the charts. And they were not only smart, the vast majority of them were good people. A lot of places aren’t like that. And as the article correctly said: a toxic graduate school environment is worse than most toxic work environments. In any practical sense, students don’t have HR protections. If you can’t get your advisor to write you a recommendation, getting into a different program is nearly impossible. You can be worked 100 hours a week. You can be blackballed for getting sick, for taking vacations, for taking maternity or paternity leave (even if it is – and it almost certainly will be – unpaid).

The key is to find an advisor who is doing good work and who is sane and moral. If you can find that you’re golden. If you can’t you may be completely screwed.

— What You Need to Know Before Considering a PhD

— Hacker News

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2022.05.21 Saturday ACHK

地獄篇 10.1.2

外在世界是地獄,心中宇宙是天堂;把知識和想像化成現實,就是把地獄天堂化。

— Me@2011.10.05

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Sharing knowledge is the most fundamental act of friendship. Because it is a way you can give something without loosing something.

— Richard Stallman

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Name: Jimmy “Jimbo” Wales
Job: Founder, Wikipedia
Passion: Information for everyone
Turning Point: An operation that saved his daughter’s life taught him the need to stockpile rare knowledge such as her doctor’s

He wipes it off and begins haltingly.

“At the end of the procedure, I realized how precious the doctor’s knowledge was. It occurred to me that no one other than this doctor would ever know about this whole thing. There had to be a way.” And that is how Wikipedia came about.

— Daddy has Kira to Thank

— by Subroto Bagchi | Jun 5, 2009

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2022.05.17 Tuesday ACHK

以右攻左

這段改編自 2021 年 12 月 13 日的對話。

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The whole notion of being “left wing” or “right wing” is silly.

Almost no one initially agrees with the semi-random collection of policies associated with each wing.

They only support those policies after they join the left or right mind tribe.

— 12:27 AM · May 13, 2022

— Elon Musk

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大概而言,美國左派的目標是「兼善天下」,美國右派的目標是「獨善其身」。

「兼善天下」(大乘)這目標固然是好,但就大到執行不到。

「獨善其身」(小乘)這目標則執行得到,但是就小到,其實沒有大用。如果是僅是「小乘」而已,人生沒有多大意義。試想想,假如,你可以「獨善其身」,生活富足,但是沒有愛人,沒有朋友,你會被迫,思考人生的意義。

「被迫思考人生意義」,可以簡稱「抑鬱」。

所以上次說,情況有如行路,要左右腳配合,才會暢順。如果你竟然,堅持只用左腳,或者只用右腳走路的話,你自然會感到,人生悲慘。

而今次多一個細節,就是「以右攻左」。成功「獨善其身」,才有能力「兼善天下」。「兼善天下」是目標,「獨善其身」是執行方法。

「兼善天下」是最終目標,永不達到,但可以不斷走近。 「獨善其身」則是起點。千里之行,始於足下。沒有起點,就沒有旅程。

— Me@2022.05.16 06:48:36 PM

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2022.05.16 Monday (c) All rights reserved by ACHK

地獄篇 10

外在世界是地獄,心中宇宙是天堂;把知識和想像化成現實,就是把地獄天堂化。

— Me@2011.10.05

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方法一:

創造或發掘有用的資訊,然後發佈。

例如,公佈騙子的身份和行騙方法,就可否定其害處。

又例如,天花的預防方法和醫治方法,否定了其害處之餘,甚至還否定了其存在。

— Me@2011.10.05

— Me@2022-04-13

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2022.04.13 Wednesday (c) All rights reserved by ACHK

惜此際 5

先唔講地唔地獄,但係因為有呢種人生觀,就算瓜咗,呢種思想模式都只會帶佢到呢啲境界嘅地方,到咗嗰度,如果佢都係咁睇野,結局又係揀自殺,咁樣不斷自殺,經歷一次又一次咁嘅局面,咁嘅經歷真係唔知算唔算地獄,可能佢都唔知經歷過幾多次呢款生生死死了,只有佢自己救到自己,其實心態改變一下就ok了,無野帶到黎,亦無野帶得走,咁認真做乜呢

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2022.03.29 Tuesday ACHK

預防離婚

有什麼事情,結婚後才可以做?

離婚。

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不結婚,就沒有可能離婚。

— Me@2022-03-05 07:13:14 PM

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單身悲,雙身慘;

兩害取其輕。

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各人情況不同。

同一個人的不同時代,也未必一樣。

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大方向是:

「好婚姻」勝過「無婚姻」;

而「無婚姻」卻勝過「壞婚姻」。

— Me@2022-03-06 10:33:05 AM

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2022.03.06 Sunday (c) All rights reserved by ACHK

Sharp, 2

The beauty of doing nothing is that you can do it perfectly. Only when you do something is it almost impossible to do it without mistakes.

Therefore people who are contributing nothing to society, except their constant criticisms, can feel both intellectually and morally superior.

— Thomas Sowell

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2022.02.07 Monday ACHK

Final Fantasy X

深淵 4

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Shortly before arriving, Tidus learns that he, Jecht, and the Zanarkand they hail from are summoned entities akin to aeons based on the original Zanarkand and its people. Long ago, the original Zanarkand battled Bevelle in a machina war, in which the former was defeated. Zanarkand’s survivors became “fayth” so that they could use their memories of Zanarkand to create a new city in their image, removed from the reality of Spira. Once they reach Zanarkand, Yunalesca—the first summoner to defeat Sin and unsent ever since—tells the group that the Final Aeon is created from the fayth of one close to the summoner. After defeating Sin, the Final Aeon kills the summoner and transforms into a new Sin, which has caused its cycle of rebirth to continue. The group decides against using the Final Aeon, due to the futile sacrifices it carries and the fact that Sin would still be reborn. Yunalesca tries to kill Tidus’ group, but she is defeated and vanishes, ending hope of ever attaining the Final Aeon.

— Wikipedia on Final Fantasy X

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2022.02.04 Friday ACHK

魚目混珠 1.2

Pure evil does no harm, because if someone is purely evil, everyone will know that and avoid him.

It is the evilness of a good man that creates big harm.

The evilness of great man creates the biggest harm.

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An organization cannot be purely evil.

Anything purely evil cannot be big, because being big requires consistency, which requires good.

— Me@2011.10.11

— Me@2022-01-08

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2022.01.08 Saturday (c) All rights reserved by ACHK

Shutting Down Google+ for Consumers

pjmorris 4 hours ago [-]

Seems to me like PM’s would think in the most positive terms about the same issue, e.g. what is the maximum amount of ad space that we can use before users lose interest?

No one would directly attempt to be evil, it’d just turn out that way.

“The truly terrible thing is that everybody has their reasons.” ― Jean Renoir

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rytis 1 hour ago [-]

Socrates agrees: “no one ever knowingly does wrong”. :)

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— Hacker News

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2021.12.29 Wednesday ACHK