So that is what hell is. I would never have believed it. You remember: the fire and brimstone, the torture. Ah! the farce. There is no need for torture: Hell is other people.
— Garcin, Act 1, sc. 5
— No Exit (1944)
— Jean-Paul Sartre
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Heaven is also other people.
— Me@2012-09-05 10:30:44 AM
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2012.09.05 Wednesday (c) All rights reserved by ACHK
Before Sunrise is a 1995 romantic drama film directed by Richard Linklater and written by Linklater and Kim Krizan.
The plot is minimalist, since aside from walking and talking, not much happens. The two characters’ ideas and perspectives on life and love are detailed.
The film received high critical praise at the time of its release and has received a rare perfect 100% rating of positive reviews on Rotten Tomatoes and a 77 metascore on Metacritic.
— Wikipedia on Before Sunrise
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情留半天 Before Sunrise (1995)
日落巴黎 Before Sunset (2004)
情約半生 Before Midnight (2013)
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2012.08.10 Friday ACHK
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The good life is one inspired by love and guided by knowledge.
– What I Believe (1925), Bertrand Russell
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發乎情 止乎禮 –
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恰如其份的感性，是理性的極致。
— Me@2011.11.02
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2012.08.09 Thursday (c) All rights reserved by ACHK
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If you begin by sacrificing yourself to those you love, you will end by hating those to whom you have sacrificed yourself.
* Self-Sacrifice
– George Bernard Shaw
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天使, 犧牲自己的利益來追求自己的理想.
魔鬼, 犧牲別人的利益來追求自己的理想.
傻瓜, 犧牲自己的理想來追求別人的利益.
智者, 透過實現自己的理想來追求別人的利益.
– Me@2009.09.14, 2010.03.11
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2010.03.11 Thursday (c) All rights reserved by ACHK
invent
discover
recognize
realize
— Me@2012.07.11
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2012.07.13 Friday (c) All rights reserved by ACHK
軟硬智力 7.1.3
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How to answer this kind of questions:
Why am I so stupid?
It is not a valid question. It is not the case that there is a pre-existing “I”, to which we can assign some qualities such as stupidity. Instead, I am the sum of all my qualities, including the quality of being stupid.
— Me@2011.10.18
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This kind of questions are like
Why does a triangle have three angles?
To be not stupid, the correct approach should be,
I am stupid. So I have to change my ‘I’ in order to be not stupid.
Although you cannot change the number of angles of a triangle, you can change the figure itself, replacing it with a rectangle.
— Me@2011.10.18
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2012.06.14 Thursday (c) All rights reserved by ACHK
軟硬智力 7.1.2
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How to answer this kind of questions:
Why am I so stupid?
It is not a valid question. It is not the case that there is a pre-existing “I”, to which we can assign some qualities such as stupidity. Instead, I am the sum of all my qualities, including the quality of being stupid.
— Me@2011.10.18
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If you do not believe me, imagine who am “I”, without all my qualities.
In other words, after deleting all my qualities, what would remain for “I”?
— Me@2011.10.18
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2012.06.12 Tuesday (c) All rights reserved by ACHK
change = delete the old one + create a new one
— Me@2010.11.28
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To improve yourself, you have to delete some of your drawbacks.
To delete your drawbacks, you have to delete parts of yourself, replacing them with good ones.
— Me@2011.10.18
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2012.06.10 Sunday (c) All rights reserved by ACHK
To improve is to change; to be perfect is to change often.
— Winston Churchill
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change = delete the old one + create a new one
— Me@2010.11.28
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It is difficult to change oneself because it is to change not just some qualities, but also the very definition of oneself. It is to change the identity.
You have to give up part of your original self in order to become a better one.
— Me@2012.06.08
— Me@2022-11-26
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2012.06.08 Friday (c) All rights reserved by ACHK
Batman Begins, 3
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Qualities are not some external things. Qualities are what define you.
That’s why it is impossible to change your qualities; unless you are willing to redefine yourself; by replacing your present self with a better version.
That’s why you cannot change another person; unless he is willing to change.
— Me@2011.10.18
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2012.06.06 Wednesday (c) All rights reserved by ACHK
軟硬智力 7.1
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How to answer this kind of questions:
Why am I so stupid?
It is not a valid question.
It is not the case that there is a pre-existing “I”, to which we can assign some qualities such as stupidity.
Instead, I am the sum of all my qualities, including the quality of being stupid.
— Me@2011.10.18
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2012.06.03 Sunday (c) All rights reserved by ACHK
這段改編自 2010 年 3 月 20 日的對話。
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（安：那有什麼方法，令到自己不再害怕孤獨呢？）
根據哲學家叔本華所講，人有如「寒冬裡的刺蝟」：
一方面，牠們要走近對方，互相取暖；另一方面，走得太近，又會刺傷對方。
那是一個兩難。
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但是，「平民百姓刺蝟」以外，還有一些「至尊星級刺蝟」。牠們每隻的體內，都有一個「核子反應堆」，可以自己發熱發暖。所以，牠們中的每一隻，都無懼寒冷孤獨，毋須走近其他刺蝟。
那就化解了兩難。
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一隻「至尊星級刺蝟」，間中會走近其他刺蝟。那並不是因為「被迫」或者「需要」，而是因為牠「希望」或者「享受」。如果牠去見其他「至尊星級刺蝟」，是因為牠想和其他刺蝟，交換「暖氣善意」；如果牠去見其他「平民百姓刺蝟」，是因為牠想在其他刺蝟之中，散播「暖氣善意」。
同理，你的精神世界越豐富，你就越不「需要」去見其他人。一方面，你會「希望」（而不是「需要」）與其他人相處；另一方面，你亦會十分享受，與自己相處。
相反，你的心靈生活越沉悶，你就越需要參加群體活動，以分散自己的注意力，盡力避免與自己相處。
— Me@2012.06.03
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2012.06.03 Sunday (c) All rights reserved by ACHK
這段改編自 2010 年 3 月 20 日的對話。
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香港是相對自由的地區。在自由的社會，沒有人可以迫你和什麼人相處。所以，至少在理論上，你不應該有「如何與很難相處的人相處」等問題。「與很難相處的人相處」的最理想（和唯一的）方法是，不要與他相處。
至於在實際上，要確切執行到這一點的話，你不可害怕孤獨。最理想是有好朋友。沒有好人和你做朋友的話，寧願沒有朋友，也不要與壞人結伴同行。
在感情上，你要做到「寧為玉碎，不作瓦存」。
— Me@2012.06.01
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2012.06.01 Friday (c) All rights reserved by ACHK
有愛有恨
無愛無恨
— Me@2011.10.18
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2012.05.25 Friday (c) All rights reserved by ACHK
人生的意義，在乎精神空間之開拓。
而男女之情，是精神空間開拓的其中一種方法。
— 唐君毅
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對於沒有自己人生目標的人來說，
愛情有如患精神病，過不了「鐵達尼極限」（三日）。
— 黃子華
— Me@2011.10.17
— Me@2012.05.23
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2012.05.23 Wednesday ACHK
Love is self de-centralization.
— Me@2011.10.17
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2012.05.21 Monday (c) All rights reserved by ACHK
這段改編自 2010 年 3 月 20 日的對話。
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To be trusted is a greater compliment than to be loved.
– George MacDonald
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「友誼」建基於「互相信任」。所以，朋友之間，只要其中一方人格有問題，就自然不可能發展成，最深刻的朋友。
「人格」包括「品德」和「智力」。只要其中一方面有問題，都會構成「人格問題」。例如，醫生甲的醫術高明，但是品德差，有時會說謊。那樣，你不會敢去給他診症。相反，醫生乙友善而誠實，但是醫術奇差。那樣，你也不敢去給他治病。
簡而言之，如果一個人「可靠」，那就為之「人格完整」。如果一個人「不可靠」，無論「不可靠」的原因是「才幹問題」、「誠信缺失」或者「其他」，那都為之「人格不完整」。
而「有缺點」不代表「不可靠」。例如，我的缺點是「不懂烹飪」。但是，我從來沒有要求別人，吃我所烹調的食物。那樣，我這個「缺點」就不會導致我「不可靠」。所以，「有缺點」不一定代表「人格不完整」。
任何兩個人，如果雙方都人格完整，越熟絡，感情反而會越好。
— Me@2012.05.21
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2012.05.21 Monday (c) All rights reserved by ACHK
You cannot change the people around you,
but you can change the people you choose to be around.
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2012.05.20 Sunday ACHK
這段改編自 2010 年 3 月 20 日的對話。
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既然人格有問題，而又不會是對方，最深刻的朋友，不留也罷。早一點反目，好過遲一點反目。早一點反目的話，傷害會少一點。
比喻說，對於情侶來說，如果遲早也要分手的話，結婚前分手，總好過結婚後才分手。
— Me@2012.05.19
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2012.05.19 Saturday (c) All rights reserved by ACHK
“Why do you love me?” is not a correct question,
because
you = summation of all your qualities
— Me@2011.10.15
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“Why do you love me?”
I love you because of your good qualities.
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“What if I do not have such qualities anymore?”
I love you for your good character.
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“What if I do not have such a good character anymore?”
Then you are not you anymore.
— Me@2012.05.16
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2012.05.17 Thursday (c) All rights reserved by ACHK
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