婚姻不幸福，缺乏的不是愛，而是友誼。
— 尼采
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It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.
— Friedrich Nietzsche
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2022.01.16 Sunday ACHK
Category Archives: love
原來是你, 2.2
相聚零刻 2.4 | 尋覓 2.2.3.6.4
這段改編自 2010 年 10 月 14 日的對話。
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你所中意的人，可能一直在你身邊，只不過是，雙方暫未察覺，或者時機尚未成熟。所以，找到另一半的，其中一個可能劇情是：「竟然是你！」
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心動為戀
戀愛的起點是，竟然是你
心定為愛
戀愛的終點是，依然是你
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你所追求的東西，可能一直在你身邊，只不過是，雙方未有發現；到發現的時候，就可能已經，花了幾年的時間。
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能力範圍內，應盡量避免浪費那幾年，因為，人的青春，尤其是女仔，就只有那幾年。
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避免浪費的主要方法有：
1. 相識於微時
2. 不要神化異性，要平民化
3. 不要幻化愛情，要現實化
— Me@2022-01-15 11:51:28 AM
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2022.01.16 Sunday (c) All rights reserved by ACHK
理智與感情, 2
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發乎情 止乎禮 –
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禮
~ 客氣
~ 保持距離
— Me@2016-09-03 02:58:13 PM
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2022.01.12 Wednesday (c) All rights reserved by ACHK
魚目混珠 1.2
Pure evil does no harm, because if someone is purely evil, everyone will know that and avoid him.
It is the evilness of a good man that creates big harm.
The evilness of great man creates the biggest harm.
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An organization cannot be purely evil.
Anything purely evil cannot be big, because being big requires consistency, which requires good.
— Me@2011.10.11
— Me@2022-01-08
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2022.01.08 Saturday (c) All rights reserved by ACHK
To realize is to realize, 1.5
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The ultimate self-fulfilling prophecies:
1. free will or not
2. god or no god
3. afterlife or not
4. future spouse exists or not
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Why self-fulfilling?
4. you have another half or not
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If you act as if your future wife exists, you have a much higher chance of finding her, because you have actually been providing the environment for her to exist.
If you act as if your future wife exists, compared with assuming not having one, you live completely differently. You will make yourself financially stable; you will earn and save money for your future wife and children. You will make yourself healthy so that you can live long enough to finally find her; and then stay with her for decades. You will make and meet genuine friends, for you know that one of them is either your future wife or the one who introduces her to you.
If you know that your future wife exists, you will not have any romantic relationship with anyone that is certainly not your future wife, no matter how beautiful she is. Actually, you will not start any romantic relationship with anyone at all, unless she is potentially your future wife.
You will keep writing letters, sending them to the future; to your future wife. Once your future wife realizes that those letters may be actually for her, she will find you to confirm.
— Me@2021-02-19 06:32:05 AM
— Me@2021-03-02 04:39:33 PM
— Me@2022-01-07 10:00:29 AM
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If you act as if your future wife exists, you know that the goal is not to find the “best” lady, but to find your future wife.
Your wife is the key to the lock of your life. Your goal is not to find the “best” key in the world, but to find the key of your life.
It is not to find the “best” key, but to find your key.
— Me@2021-12-03 12:03 PM
— Me@2021-12-05 03:22 AM
— Me@2022-01-07 12:30 PM
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Somewhere out there
beneath the pale moonlight
Someone’s thinking of me
and loving me tonight
— James Horner, Barry Mann, Cynthia Weil
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2022.01.07 Friday (c) All rights reserved by ACHK
魔間傳奇 16
相聚零刻 1.3 | 光速飛行 1.2.2.3 | 尋覓 2.2.3.2.3
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地獄空蕩蕩 魔鬼在人間
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2021.12.29 Wednesday ACHK
無拍之拖
原來是你, 2 | 相聚零刻 2.3 | 尋覓 2.2.3.6.3
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電影通常「無中生有」；現實通常「有中生情」。你所追求的東西，可能一直在你身邊，只是你沒有留意。
— Me@2009.04.05
— Me@2012.01.01
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所以，你現在毋須太緊張。
現在的你不用，急於找到對象。或者，到你 25 歲時，才遇到 28 歲的他，會好一點。那時，那個他已經是，思想成熟 和 人格完整的男士。
那不是指，你可以控制。那只是指，理想的劇情怎麼樣。
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（CPK: 廿五歲的我，才認識 28 歲的他？會不會太遲？）
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其實會。理想劇情，應該這樣說：
你倆可能自小，已經認識對方。到你 25 歲時，才開始有劇情，才與他發展成戀人。那樣，如果加上，你懂得閱人讀心術的話，那些劇情可以是，你由拍拖發展至結婚，只需要一個月時間；因為，你並不是只，認識了他一個月，而是在互相表白，確認成情侶前，就已經相識了十幾年，知道對方什麼性格。亦即是話，戀人之前，你倆就已了解對方是，如何對待身邊，尤其是那些，和自己沒有利益關係的人。
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性格上，心靈下，戀愛中，俊男美女，人工合成，都是假的；
性格左，心靈右，戀愛外，義男俠女，原裝正版，才是真的。
— Me@2021-12-28 04:30:02 PM
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2021.12.28 Tuesday (c) All rights reserved by ACHK
相聚零刻 1.2
光速飛行 1.2.2.2 | 尋覓 2.2.3.2.2
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2021.12.26 Sunday ACHK
Ordinary
The power of a man’s virtue should not be measured by his special efforts, but by his ordinary doing.
— Blaise Pascal
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2021.12.14 Tuesday ACHK
重頭愛你
Love me once again
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2021.12.05 Sunday ACHK
相聚零刻 2.2
尋覓 2.2.3.6.2
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男士其實要到 28 歲時，思想才帶點成熟，通常。
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然後，那個哲學家又說… … 千萬不要說出去，以免得罪人。
然後，那個哲學家又說，至於女士，則於 18 歲時，就已經成熟。
聽不聽得出，他在投訴什麼呢？
他的意思是，女士在思想上，於 18 歲時，就已經成熟；自此以後，就不再成熟。（當然，那只是大概而然；每個人也不同。）
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他舉例：
一位女士可以照顧小孩，與其玩耍，長達數天也不厭倦，而樂在其中。但是，一般男士也不會。
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女士，就是介乎於，男士與小孩之間的物體。
那個哲學家，覺得那是缺點。但我覺得不一定；那也可以是優點，因為，我們可以視照顧小孩，為女性的天職；然後，再視照顧女性，為男性的天職。
實情是，有很多職業是，需要照顧小孩子的，例如幼稚園教師。如果一位男士，做幼稚園教師的話，你總會覺得很奇怪。
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那樣，我想講的重點是什麼呢？
假設你現在已經有拖拍，對象和你同年，即是都是大概 20 歲。那樣，他就很可能仍是，傻仔一個。
我不是針對他。我是泛指，一般的年輕男子。我年輕時，也是傻仔人士一名。我當年已經企圖不傻。曾幾何時，我每星期看一本書。但是，現在回顧當年的我，仍然九分低能。
所以，你現在毋須太緊張。
現在的你不用，急於找到對象。或者，到你 25 歲時，才遇到 28 歲的他，會好一點。那時，那個他已經是，思想成熟 和 人格完整的男士。
那不是指，你可以控制。那只是指，理想的劇情怎麼樣。
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（CPK: 廿五歲的我，才認識 28 歲的他？會不會太遲？）
其實會。理想劇情，應該這樣說：
你倆可能自小，已經認識對方。到你 25 歲時，才與他發展成戀人。
— Me@2021-11-09 10:15:46 PM
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2021.11.10 Wednesday (c) All rights reserved by ACHK
Do You Remember Love?
可有記起愛？
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— Me@2021-10-30 07:24:36 AM
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2021.10.30 Saturday ACHK
Ultimate Freedom, 2
Imagination is not an empirical or superadded power of consciousness, it is the whole of consciousness as it realizes its freedom.
— Jean-Paul Sartre
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Your mental world/software world lies your ultimate freedom.
It is where anything not forbidden can happen.
It is where anything logically consistent can happen.
— Me@2016-11-20 09:14:06 AM
— Me@2021-09-26 09:22:54 PM
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2021.09.26 Sunday (c) All rights reserved by ACHK
Year 2000 Reloaded
These are what I kept reminding myself during my Age of University.
1. I think, therefore I am
A lot of times, something seems to be a deadend.
However, once I have faith that a solution may be possible and start to think, most of the time, that “deadline” is actually resolvable.
2. Nothing Less
A lot of times, an action seems to be insignificant.
However, actually, every action may have infinite consequences, especially when you cultivate it.
3. The Aladdin Factor
A key to get a meaningful life is to dare to ask other people or yourself for answers, advice, or favours, when necessary.
Don’t be afraid to ask, as long as a request is ethical, reasonable, and polite.
— Me@2011.08.17
— Me@2021-09-11
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2021.09.12 Sunday (c) All rights reserved by ACHK
相聚零刻 2.1
尋覓 2.2.3.6.1
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男士 20 歲時，還找不到女朋友，可能是好事，因為，男士其實要到 28 歲時，思想才帶點成熟，通常。
那是某一個哲學家講的。我當年在 25 歲時，就已經聽到這一點。到 28 歲時，真的明白了一些，以前不明白的東西。（當然，任何年齡也可以這樣說，如果一個人不斷進步的話。）
例如，說話時，為什麼會「食螺絲」（舌頭打結）呢？
是因為，企圖在同一刻講，超過一個字。只要稍為放慢說話速度，就可以化解。
又例如，生活中，為什麼會諸事不順呢？
是因為，企圖在同一格時間中，放多於一件事。
然後，那個哲學家又說… … 千萬不要說出去，以免得罪人。
然後，那個哲學家又說，至於女士，則於 18 歲時，就已經成熟；自此以後，就不再成熟了。
聽不聽得出，他在投訴什麼呢？
他的意思是，女士在思想上，於 18 歲時，就已經成熟；自此以後，就不再成熟。（當然，那只是大概而然；每個人也不同。）
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女士，就是介乎於，男士與小孩之間的物體。
那個哲學家，覺得那是缺點。但我覺得不一定；那也可以是優點。
例如，善良之女士，可以永久可愛。男士則不可以。男士青春期時，聲線會變。變聲後，不可能再可愛。
女士要可愛。男士要可靠。
無論在外表或性格上，女士的職責是，保持可愛，尋找可靠；男士的職責則是，保持可靠，保護可愛。
— Me@2021-07-26 05:12:55 PM
— Me@2021-09-07 05:15:56 PM
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2021.09.10 Friday (c) All rights reserved by ACHK
Broken
A: Before meeting you, my life is chaotic.
M: It is because you missed, me. With me, you are completed.
— Me@2021-06-07 06:16:29 PM
— Me@2021-08-22 05:40:53 PM
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2021.08.22 Sunday (c) All rights reserved by ACHK
What is magic
Science is the real magic.
What you know is science; what you do not know is magic.
Life is a process of turning magic into science.
— Me@2016-11-20 09:14:06 AM
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2021.05.28 Friday (c) All rights reserved by ACHK
千里共嬋娟
尋覓 2.2.3.5 | Passion Test 2.3 | 二百萬 4
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如果你覺得你女朋友，會阻礙你工作進度，或者是你時間負擔的話，你倆大概由始至終，就不應在一起；你倆根本不是，對方的另一半。
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第三，太陽會發光，月亮不會。但是，月亮單單是存在本身，就已經透過反射，為地球黑夜一面，帶來不止的光芒。
發現「質量守恆定律」的，是一位化學家，名叫拉瓦節（Antoine-Laurent de Lavoisier）。他的正識是一位稅務官。因為高薪厚職，他有充足的金錢，去購買很多高級精準的化學儀器，以作化學研究之用。他的其中一個科學功績是，透過他的一些實驗，印證了「質量守恆定律」。
拉瓦節的太太 Marie-Anne Pierette Paulze，同時是他的助手 —— 為拉瓦節把文章翻譯成外語，從而把拉瓦節的化學研究成果，發揚光大。
拉瓦節太太的化學造詣，不及丈夫；而拉瓦節的文字功力，亦不及太太。但是，他們卻是夢幻組合，合力發表了，很多改變歷史的作品。
化學方面，拉瓦節是太陽，太太是月亮；文字方面，太太是太陽，拉瓦節是月亮。
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那是直接的合作。但是，有時，另一半單單是存在本身，就令你可以創作到，一些原本不可能存在的作品，又名「神作」。
例如，作家如果沒有（現在或未來的）知己知音，其實不會有心神動機（心機），去開始創作。即使有因為金錢的引誘，而夾硬創作，結果也不會是神作，只會是鬼作，連自己也不想閱讀。
相反，作家如果有（現在或未來的）知己知音的話，創作的過程就如，穿梭時空，探索宇宙；創作的結果就成，神來之筆，扣人心弦。
— Me@2021-05-14 11:02:51 PM
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2021.05.15 Saturday (c) All rights reserved by ACHK
卡拉OK, 4
Facebook time does not change anything.
Doing things changes things.
If you (and other people) do nothing, the situation stays exactly where it is.
— Me@2016-12-12 03:18:13 PM
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2021.05.09 Sunday (c) All rights reserved by ACHK
To realize is to realize, 1.2.2
So in theory, there is no free will, because the future is already fixed, by the physical laws.
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However, even if we knew the exact physical laws, it would be still logically impossible to get all the data of the present state of the whole universe, because it is logically impossible for any observer to observe itself, with 100% details, directly. For example, no camera can take a picture of itself directly.
So “in practice”, which is actually also “in principle”, there is free will, because logically, no one can predict, with 100% accuracy, your future actions.
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In one logical sense, the future is already fixed, so there is no free will. In another logical sense, the future is fixed, but no observer can know that “fixed future” with 100% accuracy, so there is free will.
As a result, whether you label your actions are due to “free-will” or “not-free-will” has no real consequence. In other words, whether there is free will or not has no meaningful difference.
The difference that makes no difference makes no difference.
So you can actually transcend the free will problem altogether. You can just ignore it and live your life.
Or, you can somehow capitalize on this freedom of labelling your (future) life as either fixed or free, depending which label is more beneficial for you in a particular situation.
For example, when you are highly under pressure, you know that everything is fixed by the physical laws, from god’s point of view. When you are highly above pressure, you know that you are partially responsible for creating your own reality, because the future is not fixed for any one observer, for there is no “god’s point of view”.
You have the flexibility to label it in one way or another.
— Me@2021-05-07 10:27:04 PM
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2021.05.09 Sunday (c) All rights reserved by ACHK
Physics Town 
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