This essay is adapted from an dialogue on 2009.12.01.

Me: How are you today?

TYC: How come the feeling of loneliness often appears?

Me: You? You have a boyfriend now. But still feel lonely?

TYC: His mobile phone has been confiscated by his teacher temporarily. So I cannot find him now.

Me: Strange. You can phone his home. Or you can use instant messenger or email to contact him.

TYC: I don’t phone his home.

TYC: And his computer has been locked up by his elder brother.

Me: ??? He is really strange…

Me: Do you two have any regular meeting time?

TYC: Yes. Once a week.

Me: Good.

Me: Then no need to worry.

Me: No need to be lonely.

TYC: But … I don’t know why I still feel lonely.

Me: Let me tell you the truth. Ready?


Me: Even after marriage, most people still feel lonely.

Me: They are “Married Singles”.

Me: See?

TYC: So I am one of them?

Me: ?

Me: To get rid of loneliness, you must be very “high level”. I can do it only 60% of the time.

Me: Can be 70% when I get a girlfriend.

Me: 80% when I get a wife.

TYC: But why??

TYC: Even though I have got a lover, I still have to be lonely?

Me: I know why.

Me: If the lover is just a biological lover or psychological lover, that’s not enough.

Me: The lover must also be an intellectual lover and a spiritual lover.

Me: That is, someone can transform and be transformed by you.

Me: He can expand your mental horizon. You can expand his spiritual universe.

Me: etc.

TYC: …

TYC: Can we really find “the one”?

Me: No guarantee.

Me: Finding “the one” is impossible for human.

Me: That’s why we need God’s help

TYC: …

Me: in order to find “the one”.

TYC: So I still need God -_-

Me: Only God can do the “impossible”.

Me: We cannot.


— Me@2010.04.12

Finding your Amazing Half is impossible.

That’s why you need to provide the environment for God’s miracle.

— Me@2009.07.16

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Self-Reliance 5

Self-Reliance is an essay written by American Transcendentalist philosopher and essayist, Ralph Waldo Emerson. It was first published in his 1841 collection, Essays: First Series. It contains the most solid statement of one of Emerson’s repeating themes, the need for each individual to avoid conformity and false consistency, and follow his or her own instincts and ideas.

In this essay, Emerson conveys his Transcendentalist philosophy and belief in self-reliance, an essential part of which is to trust in one’s present thoughts and impressions rather than those of other people or of one’s past self. This philosophy is exemplified in the quote: “A foolish consistency is the hobgoblin of little minds.” Emerson stresses the need to believe one’s own thoughts, while actively searching one’s internal mind in order to capture the flash thought that may or may not come across. However, Emerson articulates that although one may have unlimited potential, few actually possess the confidence to develop their minds fully. Emerson then writes, “Trust yourself,” for God will not have his work made manifested by “cowards”. Immediately afterwards, he asserts that everyone has the innate tendency to express independent, genuine verdicts when young, but when young men become adults, Emerson argues, they will become, “clapped into jail by [their] consciousness.”

The essay states that, “To be great is to be misunderstood,” Emerson illustrates this by showing how enormously influential historical characters (Jesus Christ, Pythagoras, Copernicus) were fiercely opposed during their lifetimes, while time later demonstrated their genius.

Emerson also stresses originality, believing in one’s own genius and that creativity lives within all people. From this springs the quote: “Envy is ignorance, imitation is suicide.”

– Wikipedia, December 2007

— Me@2008.01.06

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